All of us have had that first break up in life. A phase that is generally associated with feelings of disgust, self- pity, hatred some times to the extent of murder! But why is it that just because a relationship did not work out the way we wanted it to we forget all the good things that happened to us while we were in it. How can we start hating a person who until a few days ago was the one we loved the most. If relationships are a part of life so are break ups as well.
It was on the this 14th of feb when I was reminiscing my relationship from last year I realized that it didn’t make much of a difference at all now that I am no longer with her. The whole point of having a relationship are the bunch of positive feelings it brings inside us. But the moment love makes us feel negative is for us to realise that it’s no longer love but just our silly ego at work. Sure we all wanna a date on V-day but for a change can’t we start just by loving ourselves first.
Even after my break up I have done things that I can never be proud of. For some time I had become a person I have always hated. When we say stupid things about our exs after break ups it isn’t because we are pissed at them it’s because we are angry at ourselves. Why is it that all the good memories that made us happy then now make us feel sad and dejected? Instead of feeling dejected and even vindictive towards our ex shouldn’t we just thank them for bringing love into our lives and by leaving us they have just given us the opportunity to be loved again maybe by someone else!
We are all familiar with the term move on. But does moving on necessarily have to be from one relation to another. It can also be a new hobby, a new goal in life, a new passion. Life is not a fairy tale so there won’t always be a happy ending but as far as being happy in life is concerned it’s a choice that we have always had. So let’s just for a change love ourselves instead of fussing over our past relationships.
